I know its not good

[erineliza]

My 41 yr old boyfriend has a lump attached to his testicals it started out about the size of a BB and is now the size of a large grape , I keep setting up Dr. appts but he refuses to go in to see the doctor it is getting bigger and is tender to the touch , I'm really scared but he is in denial , how can I convince him to go or scare him into going to see a doctor he gets so defencive like it makes him less of a man can someone give me advice I'm at the end of my roap my mother has bone cancer and now this ..exausted , erin

[dadmo]

Print out the self examination information that is listed here and have him read it. All you can do at this point is try and convince him that you want to be with him for a long time and that he needs to take care of himself for you.

[Scott]

It may not be cancer, but he absolutely needs to have it checked. It doesn't pay to wait and hope it goes away. Refusing to see a doctor isn't manly.