my boyfriend's struggle

[diandra denise]

My boyfriend just got diagnosed with TC last January 20, 2006 at the age of 24. The doctor found a lump on his right testicle. I am shocked when I heard the news. Im so depressed knowing that we are far from each other because he's working on another country and the fact that I am not there to be with him really saddens me. We already have plans getting married next month until this thing came out. I dont know what to do. He told me that the doctor explained to him that he needed to undergo the operation to remove the lump as soon as possible. When I heard this I told him that he should pursue the operation before anything gets worse. He followed the doctor's advice. He had it removed yesterday.

The doctor explained to my fiancee that because he ignored this lump for three years, the left testicle wasn't that healthy now, so the chances of having children was that small.

hope i can get a reply from anyone here in the forum because although this happened to my boyfirend I am still willing to marry him.

please help me because i just want to know if the chances of us having children in the future is really low now. please? thanks...

[Scott]

Welcome, Diandra Denise. I'm sorry to hear about these troubles, but rest assured that testicular cancer can nearly always be cured. What other information has your boyfriend received? Does he have the pathology report, and has he had blood tests for tumor markers, and CT scans and/or x-rays of the abdomen and chest to look for spread?

What does the doctor believe is affecting the left testicle? Cancer in one usually does not mean the other has a problem, too. If there's some doubt, he should consider a fertility test and perhaps sperm banking if need be.

I know this is a difficult time, but it will get better!

[dadmo]

diandra denise:
The most important thing you can do right now is to become informed. The attached link will take you to a site that should be able to answer most of your questions. http://tcrc.acor.org/. Please keep us posted on your fiancees progress.

[Chris'Mom]

Diandra Denise...please know other people are here for you and your fiance....my son was diagnosed at 20 almost a year ago....and a dark period in our lives is now bright and full of promise...you will both get thru this with support from each other and others....keep in touch...Mary Ellen

[jdunn]

Diandra Denise,
Welcome to this wonderful, supportive website. Sorry for your troubles too.
I second what MaryEllen just posted. It was a year Jan 21, that my son, 20 was diagnosed with TC. It's was life changing experience for my whole family but it made us stronger. Be informed, Don't be afraid to ask alot of questions. You both will get through this.
As Scott suggested, ask your doctor about banking sperm, just in case. Keep us posted.
Take care,
Jane

[amorgan74]

Diandra, I think sometimes our lives are touched in ways that we don't understand so I know everything will be okay with your concern about being able to have children. I think the others that have posted have suggested everything that came to my mind too. If you keep looking on this site you will find others that had that small chance too and have babies. Get all of the info you can and then just make the best decision with your fiancee'. We will be thinking of you and keep you both in our prayers. April

[diandra denise]

My boyfriend's struggle... my reply...

Thanks to God, I get reply from all of you.. I feel a little relieved with what you guys have said.. I am really worried that's why I asked you questions.. Honestly, this is my first encounter with this type of cancer. Dont worry, I will gather all the information that I can and let all of you know. So that I know what to say to my boyfriend..

You know, what brings me to this site is because both my parents are not here, so I dont know who to ask about TC. My boyfriend, due to his frustration of not having children, doesnt want to open this topic again, because this makes him depressed.. But I'll try my best to ask him what he's doing about this like going to pathologist and etc...

Thanks again and hope you can reply to me when I posted any new information I will get...

God Bless....

[Don]

Just keep in mind that you are not alone and you can look to this site for support at any time---Because there are membes here from all across the globe this site is active pretty much 24 hrs a day...... Doctors also seem to always diagnose and give you the worst case scenario -- there may be hope for children in the future.. Many members on this site have been told that they may not be able to have children and many of them DO end up having children....Miracles happen everyday....we are all living proof of that fact....Best of luck to you both!!!!!!! DON

[huckchef]

I know what you are going through! If at all possible please tell him to see a fertility specialist to have a count done and donate sperm. Its not that costly considering the situation. Even if his count is really low, it only takes a very small amount of sperm to do IVF. My wife and I have done this and we are expecting our first child august 10th. even if things work out on the remaining testical, I think its not a bad idea to go ahead with banking because it could later develop. best wishes and please feel free to contact me by private post or email if you would like more info. god bless, brian.