What a week

[Individuation]

Hey All,

After my boyfriend's surgery things seemed like they were going really well. He had his operation on the 1st of the month... but last Thursday, the 9th, he spiked a temperature of 103. So since Thursday we've been in and out of the hospital and ER. They did a sonagram and while they saw a pocket of fluid near the surgical site they don't think it's an abcess. He also has a hematoma where the testicle once was and while they don't think it's infected, they aren't sure. I haven't had more than 2-3 consecutive hours of sleep in about 7 days due to taking care of him and nerves. This morning at 4:30am I was getting him a ride back to the hospital because he was vomiting and feverish again. This is crazy. His surgeon was out of town until today so we had two nervous residents trying to care for him all weekend. Right now he's on some heavy pain killers via IV, and he's having a catscan done later today to see if they need to open him up again or not.

All this and he hasn't even started chemo yet.

I love him, but this is getting really hard. I'm starting to ask for more help from his friends and family, but he only wants me with him. He's starting to understand that I need to be at work (I'm a high school teacher) and that I need sleep, but that doesn't stop him from wanting me by his side. I feel so guilty when I'm not with him.

Tell me it's gonna get better.
*sigh*
Eileen

[Mom]

You are going to need a break and he is going to need to understand. If they can do the chemo in patient, let them do it because if it is done out-patient, someone will have to be with him (at least drive him) to and from treatment every day when he is a week on. Certainly sounds like an infection. I am so sorry that you both are going through this. I wish I could say things will get easier but you are just at the beginning of this trip. Usually, the I/O is the easiest part of the journey. You will reach your destination and it will be so rewarding when you do. Hang in there, Eileen. Stay strong. Dianne

[huckchef]

yeah... just hang in there! this infection will soon be taking care of with antibiotics. its great you are there for him but at the same time you have to take care of yourself as well and he will understand that. is there any other family members that can help? even if its just a ride to the doctor it can take alot off of you. once this infection is under control he should start a pretty speedy recovery. i can promise you that having someone like you makes a difference. god bless you for that! hang in there and things will get better soon and just ask for strength each day and god will provide.
you in my thoughts and prayers, brian.