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    I am hoping to get some stories and some ideas. My husband did 3xBEP at the start of the year and was done at the end of March.

    We have three girls, 8, 4 and 2. All the girls seemed to do quite well with everything related to the cancer and to chemo while it was going on.

    About a month after everything was done our 4 year old (5 in November) who had been potty trained since she was 4 (she is a stubborn cookie, just like her Daddy...she won't do ANYTHING unless you force her or until she wants to). Anyhow, she regressed with going potty. It started out slow, but by June it was full blow backwards. She wasn't going into the potty at all.

    I thought maybe she had a UTI, so I took her to see her Dr. No UTI. He said it was most likely a delayed response to my husband's treatment and the stress of the cancer. So he suggested many rewards and reward charts to help her get back on track. After a few days of potty charts she had had enough of it and it wasn't rewarding enough. So we decided since she had been wanting a Nintendo DS SO badly we would make that her reward. We told her after she went potty 20 times in a row, not including night time, we would get it for her. We have been trying now for 3 weeks and she still hasn't made it past 6. And now today she compleatly stopped trying at all.

    We aren't pushing her at all or punishing her, you can't force a kid to go potty. Her pediatrician wanted me to call him back after 2 weeks to let him know how it is going. It has been 6 weeks and I haven't called, because I am still hoping something will work! He wants her to go see a psychologist if the potty chart didn't work.

    You can only imagine how against it my husband is.

    So if any of you with younger children went through something similar, if you could share how things worked out I would be so greatful.


    Husband Right I/O 09/06
    -70% Embryonal Carcinoma
    -20% Teratoma
    -10% Yolk Sac Tumor
    11/06- lymph nodes 1.8x1.4 and 1.9x1.4
    12/06-PET Scan confirms activity in lymph nodes, lymph nodes 2.2x2.2 and 2.4x2.3
    1/07-Start 3xBEP
    4/07-PET clear, lymph nodes down to 1.1x0.5 and 1.8x1.0
    6/07-lymph nodes 1.2x1.0 and 1.9x.9
    8/07-lymph nodes 1.1x1.0 and 2.0x1.2
    10/07-lymph nodes 2.0x1.5 and 2.7x1.8
    11/07- PostChemo LRPLND-found burnt out teratoma
    11/09-Enlarging lymph node 1.2 cm near renal veins

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    Hi Becki...I am relate to having a young child through this...but you have!

    I will tell you what we did....we got our son a puppy. Her name is Charlotte and she is a doll baby. It helped my son have something new, fun, and wonderful to focus his engery on. I am not sure this is the kind of solution you are looking for...but for us, it did the trick. And she helps Boyce hold down the couch on rainy sunday afternoons when they both need a bath.
    Co-survivor with husband Boyce, Diagnosed 7-11-06, orchiectomy right testicle on 7-12-06- Stage 3A: Mixed germ cell tumor with inguinal seminomatous and kartotypic carcinoma. One tumor over 10 cm, second tumor 4 cm, Chemo 4xBEP: Bi-lateral RPLND Dec 2006, nerve sparing but left sterile.
    Current DVT
    Current testosterone replacement therapy, Testim.

    "You must abandon the life you planned, to live the life that was meant for you" ~wisdom I have learned from my family on this forum