Problems with infertility.

[Jay68442]

My wife and I have been trying for a second child for a little over a year now. We have tried everything short of IVF. Our first child took 18 months of trying. Its gets real old after 6 months. Both of us have been tested repeatedly and all is fine, so they say anyway. But if all was truly fine I wouldn't be making this post. I wonder if I could be part of the problem or should I say effects from the chemo. Even though my count is good does that mean that my sperm is fine? I joke with my wife all the time saying maybe my boys just don't know what to do when they get there. Has anyone else had a similar experience.

[Margaret]

First of all I wanted to say that I am sorry it has been so frustrating. Boyce and I tried for a year (before we knew he was sick and every month it was a bit stressful waiting to see if anything happened)

My doctor says that the average woman and man (both having normal counts) spend 12 months trying to get pregnant. So if average is 12 months, then there must be a wide range in there. I would think if your counts are normal and she is okay, maybe it is just taking a little while. This site has some of the best information I have found on getting pregnant:

http://www.babycenter.com/getting-pregnant;jsessionid=B2DC5F56CB8ECCDC1C0D21D1D6A5D58E.02-08?intcmp=Nav_Global_Precon

Hang in there!!!! I will send prayers for good news.

[jaybird]

We've been trying for 6 months now. The first month my wife had a M/C early in pregnancy. Sinse then no luck. I got tested and they say that everything is normal but I have to wonder myself. It is starting to get frusterating b/c all are friends have gotten pregnant right away.

Oh, well. Whatever is suppose to happen will.

[Jilleighn]

An average couple takes 12 months to get pregnant. By chance does your wife Chart? Charting is the best way to find out exactly when you ovulate. You might have a normal sperm count, but did they say the activity in them? The life of them? That can have a large part in getting pregnant also.

We tried for our second daughter for just at 3 years and every minute of it sucked. I did get tired of planning sex and working around ovulating schedules. We did do fertility treatments. I did my very last fertility treatment in Oct 2006 and did not get pregnant. I washed my hand of it and moved on. I started to enjoy my daughter more and going on with life and having fun. When I was not stressing anymore about getting pregnant that is when we got pregnant. Just one month after our last fertility treatment. I might have helped that I had some of the cocktails in me still, but I was not stressing about it.

Fertilityfriend is a great website

[Jay68442]

Thank You all for the replies.

Margaret
Thank you for the link to the site. I will have a look when I get a chance. Not sure if there is any info out there I haven't read but I do appreciate your support.

jaybird
With the exception of a few others everyone else around us gets pregnant on the first try. So I understand exactly what you are saying.

Jilleighn
My wife owns the best ovulation computer out there so I'm sure we are doing it at the right time. Last month we had an IUI done and still no luck. With our first child we did IUI 4 times to no avail. My wife got pregnant naturally the following month. Don't figure.

[mk6439]

Jay, it sounds like you guys have all your bases covered. Has your wife tried accupuncture? I didn't try it personally, but I've talked to a couple of women who swear by it. If you end up going the IVF route, make sure you choose a place with a great lab, I've heard that makes a big difference. Good luck, I know how frustrating infertility is.

[Jay68442]

Has your wife tried accupuncture?

No we have not tired acupuncture. My wife has mentioned it to me and is interested in doing it. We just have to find a place in the area that does it.

[Fish]

Jay,

I wish you the best of luck with your conception attempts. I have not tried acupuncture for pregnancy related matters, but I do use it as part of a comprehensive pain management plan for degenerative disk disease. I love it; it's not only relaxing, but I get a significant reduction in sciatic pain for several hours to several days after a session.

I think Eastern medicine has a lot to offer, especially when used in tandem with Western medicine - you can get the best of both worlds.

Again best wishes for sucess.

[fuse929]

Jay,
If I remember correctly, there are some fertility acupuncture specialists in the King of Prussia area......I remember seeing it on a sign last time I was down there, and It stuck out to me because I never heard of acupuncture as a pregnancy aid. Maybe it would be worth the drive.

Bobby

[Margaret]

Some interesting new bites

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,154472,00.html

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2004/07/23/earlyshow/saturday/main631441.shtml

http://www.news.cornell.edu/releases/April03/fertility.html